Death is a part of life. We all die. As the late comedian George Carlin once said, "It is on your schedule". The question here is, does it matter how?
Some people just die. By that I mean they die of old age or "natural causes". Some other people die because of accidents, such as car accidents or slipping in the shower or being hit by lightening. Far too many humans die of preventable reasons such as starvation, lack of clean water or lack of simple medications that could have preserved their lives for a while longer. Some people die of complex diseases, like heart attacks or cancer. Still, we all end up dead.
Some people die suddenly. My grandfather on my father's side did. Watched the 11 O'clock news, stood up to go to bed, aortic aneurysm popped and he was dead before he landed back down in his Lay-z-boy. Some people see death coming for a long time. That's what happened to my father. He died of liver cancer that moved into his lungs and he knew for more then a year that he was terminal. While I respected his right to choose, he died a death I wouldn't. I would have killed myself.
Some people die as cowards. They die running away from a disaster or as the person one sees on every disaster movie who is the gutless wonder that dies trying to save only them-self. Some people die as heroes. Movies are made about them and the heroics of their life. They die throwing themselves on a grenade or shoving a kid out of the path of a speeding car.
Still, hero or saint. Right or wrong. Courageous or coward. All of them (us) are just as dead. The question is, does it really matter to them or to you how you die? I mean, you'll be dead, so how could you possibly care about the thoughts of condemnation of humans left behind? When you are dead, do you really think you'll be able to really care about how people perceived how you died? Do you really think it will matter to you if you died as a hero or as a coward or as just another death? If you died saving children from a burning building or by putting a bullet into your brain? Do you really think it will really matter to you once you are dead?
I think that it does not matter. I think that, once we are dead, it doesn't matter to us how we died. We're dead. We will have lost the capability of caring how we died or what those left behind think about us or the manner of our death. How can we? We're dead. What do you think?